Saturday, February 10, 2007

A Valentine's Day Plea


Before I met hugguhbear (a time we like to call either Never, NeverTime, or BH [Before Hugguh]), I was very lonely and bitter about love. Leading up to Valentine's Day during my freshman year in college, I told all my friends that I would wear black in protest of a stupid Hallmark holiday. Of course, all this bitterness was just a facade, a tough girl act, to cover my sadness for being alone, yet again, on V-day.

A guy friend of mine (a lot of my friends freshman year were boys, but I think I'll save that for another post) gave me a simple V-day card that changed my mind about the holiday forever. In his card, G. told me that the holiday isn't about having a boyfriend and getting presents, but about celebrating love and the act of loving. I had a lot people in my life, new and old, who loved me just the way I was and that was cause for celebration.

I'm sure G. never realized how much that one, very thoughtful card influenced me. It opened my heart to possibilities, and later that summer hugguhbear became an intrinsic part of my life.

(I have a point, I promise.)

Now, G. and I were genuinely just friends. In fact, he was my roommate's boyfriend, but he was also just the kind of guy who would celebrate the holiday with all the people he cared for, not just his girlfriend. That little card meant so much to me and so many people could benefit from his V-day practice.

My Valentine's Day Plea is mostly for any guy readers out there (but, it can also apply to the ladies): make a big deal out of February 14th and tell people in your life how much they mean to you. It only takes a card, or a thoughtful conversation, to tell someone that they're special, because it means a lot. I think men don't really understand how much angst women get over this single day, so please don't pick this one day to be the day that you'll rebel against society and ignore the holiday because it'll only upset someone, no matter what you think.

Michigan: get your shit together and tell Nikki you love her and want to be with her. Please!

C.: enough of this covert boyfriend behavior and sweep Justice off her feet already!

F.: honestly, I don't really have anything to say because I know you'll make Moonie feel special.

Public service announcement over. Thank you.

3 comments:

moonrat said...

i'll take up the challenge!!

justice said...

From your lips (fingers?) to God's ears! And I, too, will join moonrat in that challenge.

Nikki said...

I'll take up the challenge too and hope that Michigan will one day (before my eggs go bad) rise to that personal challenge as well.